Good Grief is an act of Love
I have always been interested in what we can learn from our losses. The older I get the more I understand death as a vital, beautiful part of life.
My grief is open, soft, tender and necessary. I am grateful for it because it reminds me of my ability to love wildly and my capacity to be present with my losses. Learning about death, dying and good grief is giving me so much – deeper grounding, an appreciation for life and the vivid awareness that we can’t take anything for granted.
In my experience things like the loss of ability, the shedding of identities, heartbreaks, friendships that end, dreams that need to be composted and literal deaths all deserve good grief. My body is teaching me that there are a lot of losses that often remain untended in our death avoidant culture and that this can create all kinds of challenges. When I am letting my heart be broken open by grief I am feeling more intimately connected to the world around me, more compassionate and more hopeful than when I live in denial and carry untended grief heavy on my shoulders.
I am excited to support folks in exploring their relationship to loss, in creating rituals around grief and in making meaning where meaning wants to be made. You can read more about my thoughts on death and loss in my zine called Relating to Shadows, which you can download for free here.
Loss is a universal human experience.
If you can face death, you can face anything.
I experience the tarot as a valuable tool for self-reflection, for connection with our truth and our desires and for mapping out expansive, creative next steps.
My readings are interactive rituals – you’ll receive an audio recording, an image of your cards (five to seven in a custom spread), journaling prompts for each card as well as a recommended plant that might be an ally at this time and a ritual idea which you can work with in your own way. I believe that we are actively co-creating our futures and that consent is key, therefore I don’t read for third parties or make predictions.
I also trust that in order to feel reborn we first need to let something die and that this can be a beautiful container to mark and honour a difficult time in your life.
You can order your reading here and you’ll receive it via email five to seven days later.
End of life planning & Death awareness
We are all going to die one day. Sorry to be the bringer of bad news!
Befriending this reality, thinking about what a good death means to us and making meaningful choices while we can, ideally years and years before we die, is a really powerful and life affirming things to do.
I am here to help you explore your wishes and put sensible plans in place.
Coming soon in 2020!
“Grief is subversive, undermining the quiet agreement to behave and be in control of our emotions. It is an act of protest that declares our refusal to live numb and small. There is something feral about grief, something essentially outside the ordained and sanctioned behaviors of our culture. Because of that, grief is necessary to the vitality of the soul. Contrary to our fears, grief is suffused with life-force…. It is not a state of deadness or emotional flatness. Grief is alive, wild, untamed and cannot be domesticated. It resists the demands to remain passive and still. We move in jangled, unsettled, and riotous ways when grief takes hold of us. It is truly an emotion that rises from the soul.”
Dear Yarrow, I wanted to send a quick note of my deepest thanks to you, for creating and putting out into the world your Embodiment Magic course. I’ve been studying tarot now for about 2 1/2 years (not very long, I know), and it has been such a core tool for my own emotional healing. About a year and a half ago everything aligned in a way where I discovered intuitive eating and the fact that there was even a choice in how I saw weight and my worth. Growing up as I did, I didn’t even realize you could opt out of diet culture, struggling against my body type for what feels like my whole life. So, I feel like you are bringing together in such a magical way all these different topics that are so important to me, weaving them together in a way to help me feel at home in my own skin. How could I ever thank you enough for that?
Thank you so much for my reading. It was such a beautiful gift to have yesterday. I love your process and how you interpret the cards so sensitively. It all resonated with me and I feel much more hopeful about myself and my capabilities. It was a real reminder to me to connect with my body in kind, beautiful ways.